Yup, I’m engaged! 🙂 My boyfriend, Daniel Steven Strong, proposed just after midnight on New Years Eve (story below!). I can’t believe that was over two months ago already. As we started telling people we immediately got all the questions that come with news like that, when is the wedding going to be, where is the wedding going to be (especially since we recently moved away from where our friends and family live), what kind of wedding do you want, whats your budget going to be (okay, no one really asked that, but it’s def. a question that needs to be answered) ?? … I have to admit, it can be a little overwhelming! But all while being very exciting too! Seeing the ring on my finger makes me smile everyday, even though sometimes it still seems unreal!
(Side note: Danny does not like taking pictures so we don’t have very many of the two of us!)
Many people think that because I work in the wedding flower world that I must have all these answers, but truthfully, I’ve never been engaged, I’ve never planned a wedding from start to finish… I can tell people what the wedding trends are for this year or what flowers are easiest to work with, but I don’t know anything about actually planning a whole wedding! But, I am excited to share my experiences with you, because, like me, I am sure many of you were or are in the same position… Asking where do I start?
You may be thinking, it’s been two months and you haven’t done anything yet?? Well, we have decided that we will have a longer engagement and are thinking of Fall 2016. I personally don’t think that’s very long at all, but considering most couples are engaged just over a year before they get married, us waiting closer to two years is considered long. Only about 7% of couples have an engagement longer that two years. But here is our reasoning, or my reasoning… I really want a Fall wedding, it’s my favorite time of year and because we will be getting married in California (another question answered…we will be going back to our home towns to get married) the weather should still be amazing and I love the colors associated with Fall (more on my colors in another post!). So, why not Fall of 2015? Simply, because we need time to save and I want to enjoy being engaged for a bit, cause let’s be honest, weddings are expensive and planning a wedding is super stressful!
(that’s us on the left just before a Mud Run… which was super fun by the way!)
Which brings me to our budget, Danny and I have had several chats about this already although an actual number has not been set yet. Honestly, I want to have a wedding as cheap as possible, Danny and I are both in our 30’s and we want to buy a house soon, so we are not okay with spending $25,000 (the average cost of a wedding!) for one day. That being said, we do want a wedding and we want to be able to host a celebration for all our friends and family and since Danny has a pretty large family is starts adding up quickly! At this point I would like to say our budget will be $10-15,000, with the majority going to our venue and food, but if we can do it for under $10,000 I would be very happy! I know we can do a lot of things ourselves, so we will try to save wherever we can. I will keep you updated on my budget and planning as I dive deeper into the process.
Our Engagement Story…
Danny and I have been together for about 4 years and have known each other closer to 6 years. We meet through a mutual friend who set me up with the co-ed softball team he was managing. We became friends and eventually started dating. Fast forward several years… Being together that long and being in our early 30’s we had definitely talked about getting married but Danny always led me to believe that it wasn’t going to happen anytime soon…we had just moved from Southern California to Idaho for my job, he really wants a house and to be more financially secure, which is one of the reasons I love him so much, but inside I’m thinking I want to get married, have kids…I’m 32, clock’s ticking! haha! But I am also not the type to push, although I am sure there were a few occasional comments about my readiness, I knew things would happen when they were supposed to… he did just move 16 hours away from his family and friends for my job, after all, so I knew he wasn’t going anywhere. So, needless to say, I was absolutely shocked when he did propose. I had no idea it was going to happen…I even remember thinking “what’s wrong with you?” when he started acting weird on New Years. But here’s the actual engagement story, sorry, that was a lot of info and I haven’t even gotten to the actual proposal yet!
We didn’t really have any plans for New Years. We are both kinda over going out and dealing with the crowds and craziness of New Years, plus it was about 12 degrees out that night with snow on the ground. So, when I got home from work Danny asked if I wanted to walk to the Timber for dinner and a few beers and then come home to watch the ball drop and all that New Years stuff. I was all for it. The Twisted Timber is a little pub down the street from our house with great food and a really good beer selection, so we walk there often, yes, even in 12 degree weather. We got bundled up and went out. We enjoyed our pub grub and a few beers and walked home. When we got home we got comfy, poured some champagne and huddled on the couch, flipping back and forth between all the different New Year programs. We celebrated the New Year but then Danny muted the tv and jumped up from the couch and went into his office, I was wondering what he was doing, but I didn’t think anything of it. I heard a song start playing (earlier we were looking for a cd, so I just figured he really wanted to hear that song) and he came back out to the couch. At that point he handed me a note (I still am absolutely clueless)… It said “I Love You”. I think I kinda laughed, smiled and said I love you too babe. Then he said, turn it over. (At this point I think my heart stopped or something). On the back it said, “my last name”. It all happened so fast, but I think I cried, said, oh my gosh like 5 times, was in total shock, was super excited, it’s was a flood of emotions all at once. So while I was freaking out a little bit, he was down on one knee in front of me asking me to marry him. Oh, and the song that was playing… My Last Name by Dierks Bently. It’s a great song and if you haven’t heard it it’s basically saying, I may not be able to give you much, but I can give you my last name, which is the most important thing. So, our engagement didn’t involve anything fancy, no formal night out with dinner reservations (I probably would have caught on if that was the case), but it was us and because of that it was perfect and I wouldn’t want it any other way. 🙂
Now I want to hear your engagement stories! Tell us in the comments below!